Self-Care Sunday’s: Swanky Self-Date

June 13, 2021

Welcome to my Self-Care Sunday’s B.R.E.A.T.H.S. blog post. A couple weeks ago, I discussed the top five reasons self-care is important, followed by 10 tips you can do to maintain proper self-care. I decided to break down the 10 Tips You Can Do to Maintain Proper Self-care and focus on one tip each week to give extra pointers on how to manage self-care at least one day a week. This week, I discuss how to take yourself out on a swanky date, not just any date, a stylish and lavish date with all of your favorite luxurious desires. 

Fancy dinner, champagne, “Wicked” Broadway Show, Pittock Mansion Museum

Swanky Date Details

You are the best person who knows how to make yourself swoon, so why not splurge one day all to yourself on a swanky date! Regardless if you are in a relationship with someone else, you should plan some time to totally spoil yourself rotten. How might one do that you ask? Here’s a list of ideas to get you started:

Example Self-Date Calendar Entry
  • Plan Ahead:
    • Create a list of all the exciting things you could do on your own (indoor/outdoor excitement, live entertainment, restaurants), see list of swanky activities below
    • Set a date and stick to it
    • Make reservations and add them to all your calendars, include notifications or reminders 
    • Keep an eye on the weather to help you prepare clothes and the possibility of changing plans
    • Tell people your plans and ask that they respect your time to yourself that day 🙂 
Professional Manicure & Pedicure
  • Glam up:
    • Shower or bathe (check out my baths blog)
    • Oral healthcare (polish up those pearly whites)
    • Facial grooming and pampering (check out my Beauty Monday’s blog)
    • Manicured or clean/trimmed nails (hands and feet)
    • Updo, sleek back, or perhaps see hairstylist (may have to book ahead)
    • Expensive cologne or perfume (testers are free to try)
Professional photo shoot in fancy attire (Vera Wang gown)
  • Dress Up:
    • Time to get out your Sunday best
    • Old fancy outfit
    • Some new swag
    • Accessorize accordingly
    • Whatever makes you feel dapper
    • Get dolled up!
Horse Drawn Carriage Rides, San Antonio, TX
  • Swanky Transportation:
    • Consider having a driver and a nice ride the entire experience
      • Order Uber XL 
      • Order Lyft Lux
      • Order luxury taxi service
      • Reserve black car service
      • Reserve limousine service
      • Hail a horse drawn carriage service
      • Mix it up and try different services to see which one you prefer
      • Having a loved one drive you defeats the purpose of a self-date
      • No busses (unless it’s a party bus for yourself), no bikes (pedicab driving you is ok), no trains (unless luxury)
    • Driving yourself in style, choose a luxury vehicle that you really enjoy driving
      • Personal vehicle
      • Borrowed vehicle
      • Rented vehicle
Makani Catamaran Sunset Dinner Cruise, Oahu, HI
  • Swanky Activities
    • Eat at a fancy Michelin series restaurant (one to three stars)
    • Stay at a five star hotel 
    • See an opera
    • Private photoshoot 
    • Island luau experience
    • Sip champagne at a soiree 
    • Sunset dinner cruise on riverboat, sailboat, catamaran, or yacht
    • Attend a Broadway musical show
    • Browse a museum
    • Wine country tour
    • Visit a historical mansion
    • Strut down a swanky street
    • Sneak into a speakeasy
McMenamin’s Edgefield Winery Tour, Troutdale, OR


Self care is extremely important because the more you love yourself, the better you can love everyone else, and be a good role model for your loved ones, too. Self dates are a great way to get to know yourself better and start finding out what experiences bring you joy. When your loved ones see you having fun and loving yourself, they will most likely do the same for themselves. I hope that I have inspired you to try out some new ideas on treating yourself like royalty. 

Thank you for reading and viewing,

Dr. Jaime Brainerd, Ed.D.

About the Author

Dr. Brainerd

Hello, I am Dr. Jaime Brainerd Ed.D., a lifelong learner, beauty consultant, author, financial specialist, artist, traveler, health enthusiast, and self care advocate. Please follow my website for my B.R.E.A.T.H.S. blogs.

One thought on “Self-Care Sunday’s: Swanky Self-Date

  1. That sounds like an exciting self date. I don’t think I’d ever have time to plan anything swanky like that but I’d settle for an afternoon or evening sitting on the beach all by myself just to reflect.

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